The Three Wise Things I’ve Learned in Ten Years by M.W.King M.Ed.–August 2019

Dear Frugal Catholic Readers,

I thought I’d  written this blog for ten years because I have ten years worth of articles in here.  But upon looking more closely, I only became a blogger in 2012.  However, since I am 70 (and we all know how older folk forget), I am going to say this is my anniversary issue because The Frugal Catholic  published her first article in the Saint Cecilia Catholic Church bulletin on August 2009.  So Happy Tenth Anniversary to The Frugal Catholic blog!!!!

                                  Now what are those three wise things?

                                                   SILENCE  ROCKS

The first piece of  wisdom is “silence is golden.”  It really is.  During these 10 years,  I’ve watched family problems with all five kids, neighbor issues,  two sad divorces, dog biting incidents, financial challenges, and health  complications.  I wanted to say some very, very ugly things to some really nasty people (especially to the neighbor whose dog bit ours three times).  But I didn’t.  And now that all of the above situations are better, I don’t have to take back anything I said BECAUSE I DIDN’T SAY ANYTHING.  Amazing!!!

But how did I keep my fat mouth shut?  Oh, this is the really good part.  Well, I kept constantly silently saying the “Hail Mary Prayer.”  “Hail Mary, full of Grace, the Lord is with thee.  Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb, Jesus.  Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death.  Amen” Must have silently  said that prayer a billion times during these 10 years when my lips were sealed.  Thus,  a good self-control formula is:  SHUT MOUTH+ HAIL MARY PRAYER = SELF CONTROL

a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
“The Lord will fight for you while you keep silent.”
                                                           LOVE WORKS

The second wise truth I learned is “When you want to hurt someone,  love on them instead.”  One of my children really gave my husband and me a huge zinger in her behavior.  I wanted to tell her how ashamed I was of her and how she had disgraced the family, but silence prevailed.  And a  wise friend, Lyssa Froud, who had gone through something similar with her daughter said, “Just love on that child, Martha, all you can.”  So I did.

And you know what?  By me being silent and loving on that child, God changed her.  I couldn’t have changed a thing, but my silence and love gave our heavenly Father the chance to do His work.

                                        CHANGE ALWAYS HAPPENS

And the third piece of wisdom is “Nothing will be the same in a  year from now.”  My husband’s cousin, Janice Encalada,  thoughtfully  shared this piece of information when we were thrown into that ‘zinger period.’   She said, “Martha,  I don’t know what is going to happen, but one thing I do know: Nothing will be the same in a year from now.”

And you know what?  She was right:  Everything was changed for the better.  Thank you Jesus!!!

So thank you faithful The Frugal Catholic readers for reading ten years worth of thoughts.  And  remember  that the very best Frugal Catholic of all is YOU!!!

By Martha Wild King

Martha Wild King is a 71 year-young mother of five and a wife of 39 years to Captain Michael King, USN, Retired. We adopted our fifth child, an orphan from Russia when I turned 50. As far as keeping myself active, I have home-schooled for 22 years, and started three home-schooling support groups. My 100+ articles on homemaking-faith-frugality have been published in magazines, newspapers, and weekly bulletins since 1982. But most importantly, I have faithfully walked with my Lord Jesus since 20 June 1976, when I gave Him my life; and through that walk, I was led into the Catholic Church in 2009 after longing for it for 40 years. I had the Bridegroom before: now I also have His Bride--The Catholic Church.

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