The Frugal Catholic: “Natural Family Planning–A Real Life Saver” by Martha Wild Ki

Want something that is free, or nearly so, and can guarantee that your chances of staying married are around 95% versus the class average of 50%? Well take a look at Natural Family Planning!

The Catholic Church teaches that artificial birth control and contraception in any fashion is wrong. And in truth, until August 14, 1930, all contraception was forbidden due to the Comstock Laws. However on that date in 1930, the Church of England became the first church to accept marital contraception as morally permissible. And on March 21, 1931, a committee of the Federal Council of Churches also accepted marital contraception.

Personally, I have watched people since the 1960’s view contraception as freedom with sex; however, I knew enough about the birth control pill when I was first married to understand that it was a strong chemical in my body.

Through a Natural Family Planning newsletter put out by the Couple to Couple League which was introduced to us by our Catholic neighbor in Virginia, I learned among other things that the birth control pill and other contraceptive devices cause abortions by making the lining of the uterus hostile to the newly conceived baby.

By embracing Natural Family Planning and Ecological Breastfeeding, Michael and I were able to space out our four biological children and be open to the adoption of our fifth child. Natural Family Planning and Ecological Breastfeeding also gave us far more than a method to our procreation. It helped both of us learn how the female’s body completely teaches her and her husband when she is fertile. NFP teaches life—that the marriage act must be open to transmitting life. NFP and ecological breastfeeding gave me, as a woman, a dignity which contraception doesn’t. Contraception allows the man to have sex whenever he wants thus making the wife feel used. NFP, on the other hand, calls the couple to abstinence and chastity during the fertile time if they feel that with prayerful consideration it isn’t a good time to conceive.

Perhaps, if you are new to the concept of NFP and ecological breastfeeding, you would be interested to know that Natural Family Planning is over 98% effective in postponing pregnancy. In addition, couples practicing NFP within the marital embrace have a divorce rate under 5% while the divorce rate among couples who use contraception is well over 50%. And it is very inexpensive, for all you need is a chart, a thermometer, and training which can be found on line from a downloaded manual by John and Sheila Kippley called Natural Family Planning: The Complete Approach found at

Finally, natural Family Planning and Ecological Breastfeeding is not just for Catholics. As stated, my husband and I began practicing it over 30 years ago when in the Protestant Church. What I saw it do in our lives and marriage was open us to life. Contraception holds a death mentality. It not only causes abortions, but it gives license to consensual sex whenever one wants. It doesn’t teach abstinence; it doesn’t open one’s eyes to the gift of new life; and it isn’t even good for the environment for the artificial hormones in the woman’s urine are flushed down the toilet and end up in our water supply where even fish are showing the effect. ** NFP and ecological breastfeeding promote family, abstinence, and waiting until marriage. Virginity and abstinence before marriage and marital chastity during one’s marriage are what we all need to be endorsing. That is the way our Lord intended it.

**“Contraception: Cracking the Myths” by Prof. Janet E. Smith Lighthouse Catholic Media CD found at or  With a special thanks to John Kippley of